I absolutely don't think that anyone actually in the movement is strictly trying to make anyone feel bad about being white. There's an argument that could be made that learning about the various forms of privilege might cause you to feel angry ("Wait a minute, this is BS and that hasn't been my experience. I've had to scrap my way through life and haven't been given any advantages") or, yes, it might make you feel bad (experiencing "white guilt", etc) or any other handful of valid emotions. The idea of learning about privilege is so you can then unlearn unconscious behaviors.
Have you ever seen this "White Privelege Checklist", Eli? It is pretty dated in some ways (the idea of going to a music store to buy music 😄), but when I first saw it years ago, it really helped clarify the idea in my head. Privilege isn't necessarily a guarantee of success in life, just like lacking privilege isn't a guarantee of failure.
Picture you got dropped into a city where you didn't speak the language and told to go to a specific location. In one version, you have a smartphone. The next, you have a flip phone. The last one, you don't have any phone. In all three you might be able to manage to get where you were asked, but the one with the smartphone you'll have a lot of advantages. No one is asking to smartphone you feel like garbage because the no phone you exists in a multiverse where you don't have a phone, just to be like "Huh, that me doesn't have a phone. I thought we all had phones or at least the opportunity to get one." It is then up to you to make the leap to "Maybe we as a society owe it to one another to ensure that everyone has a phone."
We all agree that everyone's life matters. There are a few issues with saying that "All Lives Matter". The first is that we all agree on the sentiment, but in reality society clearly doesn't value all lives. We have 400 years of history showing that our country views the lives of BIPOC, and especially Black people, as being worth less than the lives of white people (see: holding people as slaves, the failure of Reconstruction, Jim Crow, redlining, the War on Drugs, school-to-prison pipeline). Second, responding with "All Lives Matter" largely distracts from the issue at hand - the overpolicing of Black communities and the violence that comes along with that. Would you ever respond to someone trying to cure breast cancer with "well, actually all cancer is bad"?
The reason that specifically stating "Black lives matter" is important is because while that statement should be implicit in our common belief that all lives matter, there's a mountain of evidence that our society treats them as if they don't.
I'm going to take this and respond to it at face value, even if I disagree with the assertion that BLM is a radical leftist group. I won't address the stuff about dissolving the nuclear family (the carceral state has done more to destroy the nuclear family than Marx ever could) and following socialism
Police shouldn't be doling out extrajudicial justice or brutalizing people and when they do they should be held responsible and face the repercussions. Currently, they too often do not. Breonna Taylor's killers are still out there.
On a much smaller local level, have you been following the story in the TU about the officer from Cohoes who was drunk, fired shots at Black youth, lied to the cops about it, wasn't charged or arrested and now gets to retire in good standing? The Cohoes police chief is saying the best way to handle it is to not discipline him and just let him retire. That's absurd. Everything about it from top to bottom is evidence that something is wrong with the system. Dude initially skirted the civil service system and got hired because of nepotism, was arrested 2 years ago for a DWI, now this, and he still gets to retire without a blemish? Things like that shouldn't happen, but they do ALL THE TIME. The police system, especially due to the political influence police unions and the FOP have, acts to insulate bad actors from actually experiencing consequences of the actions. Something has to change because it isn't just Cohoes PD with bad cops being protected - it is all over the country.
I'm going to assume that you are fiscally conservative based on your reaction to "following socialism". Right now, I'm taking a look at the city budgets for Albany, Saratoga, Schenectady, and Troy. In 2020, Albany is spending $54 million on police, Saratoga (minus the Commissioner of Public Saftey's Office at $.5 mil) nearly $20 million with contracted services, Schenectady $20 million, and Troy $30 million. These police budgets are BLOATED. To give you an idea of the proportions here, the next highest item on the city budgets is firefighting and that's typically around half of what is being spent on policing.
Imagine what could be done to improve the lives of people in our communities if even some of Albany's $54 million police budget were shifted to housing the homeless, mental health services, drug treatment services, veteran services, waste collection (trash fees would probably stop dead in their tracks), improving our parks, providing grants to small businesses, neighborhood cleanup and restoration projects.
Just because we've been taught to think, and foisted these jobs on them, that police should be the ones investigating robberies, solving domestic situations, dealing with people having mental health crises, and pulling over speeders doesn't mean that they are actually the best people to be doing all of those diverse tasks. There's a better way than currently exists and maybe it takes a lot of reimagining and might come with growing pains, but just because it is work doesn't mean it isn't worth doing